CAROL FAY KANE (SCHILKE)

Condolences & Memories (5 entries)

• A beautiful kind woman with the biggest heart. I hope Dylan and Becky are doing well . - Posted by: Michael Backlund (Freind) on: Oct 21, 2022

• Dearest Carol Fay (Emma) My memories are in my "memory box"; each one, carefully written on beautiful paper to last my lifetime. Here are a few: When I was 16 years old you gave me a start...living in your pretty little house Downtown...with the beautiful old fashion bathtub and the couch on the porch that you could sit on in summer and learn the facts of life watching the people go by. A home filled with the aroma of all the incredible food you were constantly cooking...If I paid more attention, I'd be a chef today. The first time we went to see a scary movie together..."Amityville Horror". We scared ourselves so bad...thought for sure there was someone in the house that night! We couldn't sleep. Sat up most the night and laughed and had hot chocolate. You made the best hot chocolate!! The time you took me to my Doctor's appointment and we had a severe case of the "giggles" that day. We just couldn't stop. You sat across from me and dozed off and started drooling on your suede coat!! OMG! I was laughing so hard, trying to be quiet and get your attention at the same time. When you woke and saw what you did, you burst into laughter and ran out of the office howling. It was the most hysterical thing ever!! You could always make me bust a gut. Then there were our special dinners together at "The Old Spaghetti Factory". It didn't matter how well you covered yourself with napkins...you ALWAYS spilled sauce on your boobs! We would even talk about it on the way to dinner but it never failed...OOPS!!.. red sauce on your beautiful WHITE blouse. BAHAHAHAHA. Oh Gosh we would laugh...and try to clean you up so we could go into the bar later...where I would sit there and watch every guy try to buy you a drink. I was chopped liver next to you sis! Now more recently...as I grow older...one of the most striking memories of my whole life was when you took me to the beach. I had ever seen a picnic lunch quite like the one you prepared for us that gorgeous summer day. When you laid the blanket down, I recognized it immediately. It was the one from our childhood. And you said "Dig your toes in the sand!" I watched you demonstrate with the most beautiful childish grin on your face. I did as instructed and the feeling caused the same dimples in MY cheeks. We were both grinning like two Cheshire cats. I captured a picture of you and I look at it every day!! We walked on the water's edge and you held my hand. Two grown sister's picking up shells and pretty stones. After our picnic you drove us up to the "Little Church". You unselfishly planned a special trip that day for me to visit Dad, as I knew you often did with the kids right from when they were little. I will never forget what happened next... We went inside and I sat in a pew. The church had been ransacked a bit but still charming and lovely. You proceeded directly to the podium where I am certain thousands of homilies were told. You took a moment to compose yourself and then proceeded to sing "Amazing Grace" at the top of your lungs like I felt YOU had done a thousand times before. Never had anything moved me so emotionally as you did in that moment. Dad's favorite song. I tried to give you space and time and told you it was just wonderful but inside me, an explosion was happening. I felt every Angel had stopped their chore and listened. I had no idea MY sister could sing like that and now I have the image in my mind FOREVER. I can still hear you Emma. I can still see you. I will miss you and love you forever. DGIAPBLTJLD. - Posted by: Donna Gail (Sister) on: May 19, 2022

• Mom, I'm sitting here tonight thinking about you, and how much I wish you were here with me right now. I could picture it, us sitting together and playing crib. It was one of our favorite things to do together. I'll never forget the time you got so excited with your hand that you somehow counted 31 points. Boy did we laugh so hard. I have an infinite amount of amazing memories with you; Crib, Yahtzee (and you rolling a Yahtzee every game and yelling YAHTZEE), Starfox on the N64, having you at all my soccer games. Every single time we went camping or fishing together. Those late nights of you teaching me math with flash cards, I fell in love with math because of you. That Home Economics project you and I did together in grade 7 where we had to try to remove 100 different stains from fabric and write about each technique, I got the top mark because of you. Every year you taught Becky and I how to tend to the vegetable garden in Elie. You taught me how to drive, how to take care of chickens, how to play crokinole, how to fish, and how to be a good brother for Becky. Out of all the many times you made my Halloween costume, Batman was by far my favorite. All the times you sang for me; Tweet tweet, twiddle twiddle. There's a bump on the log in the hole in the bottom of the sea. And Amazing Grace, which you always sang and played on the organ at Grandpa's Church. Only now I won't be calling it Grandpa's Church anymore. I'll be calling it Mom's Church. You always told me stories of Grandpa, and you always spoke so highly and proudly of him. You spoke so much of Grandpa that it was as if I've known him my whole life. I'll cherish every single one of those conversations we had of Grandpa, especially those we had at the church while picking saskatoons. One day I'll have a family of my own, I'll bring them to Your Church, and I will share with them all the amazing and funny stories I have of you. You will be a part of my children's lives like you made Grandpa a part of mine. I have so many amazing stories, so many cherished memories. My favorite memory is the last conversation I had with you on your 60th birthday, I remember it like it was yesterday. I was at the lowest point in my life and hurting beyond belief. You had so much happening in your life too, yet somehow you were able to be the strong mom that I always knew. You were so positive and happy, I can still hear it in your voice. You were very motivational, and very empowering. You took such a huge weight off my shoulders with how supportive you were. You were so happy, I couldn't help but smile for our entire conversation. It was so good to hear your voice. I needed you to be there for me so bad, and you were. One last time you motivated me, you gave me hope, and you gave me strength. I can't ask for anything else. I'm going to miss those conversations more than anything, and I will cherish each one we had. No matter how hard life got, you always had a way of making sure Becky and I were ok. You taught us how to find joy in the simplicities of life. Mom, I miss you so much. I miss your infectious smile and laugh, your hugs, and your stories. You were always so proud of Becky and I. I remember how happy you'd get when you read my report card, you'd cry. You taught me to cry at happy things. I am the man I am today because of you. Thank you for devoting your life to Becky and I. Thank you for teaching me my manners, math, how to cook, how to shave, how to drive, and how to be strong. Thank you for teaching me how to fish and how to camp, how to grow a healthy vegetable garden and how to be a gentleman. Thank you for teaching me good morals, how to put others before myself, and how to find happiness in the little things. Thank you for being there for me during all of my hard times. Thank you for never being ashamed of me. Thank you for being proud of me. Thank you for loving me the way you did, openly and emotionally. Thank you for everything you ever taught me, said to me, and showed me. Thank you for being my mom. I love you and miss you so very very much. Please give my love to Grandpa, and please give Keaton a hug and kiss for me. Thank you for everything Mom, I will cherish every single memory I have of you and continue to use your powerful words to motivate me for the rest of my life. I love you with all my heart. Dylan XOXO - Posted by: Dylan Schwark (Son) on: Jul 29, 2019

• Auntie Carol loved with her whole heart. She gave the greatest hugs with the biggest smile on her face. I know our time together was limited, but the boys and I love you all the same. Thank you for your kind heart, your sweet demenour, and smile that would light up a room. Until we meet again :) xo - Posted by: Alysha Downey (Niece) on: Mar 09, 2019

• I dedicate this to you my sister: Carolina, you ended your time with me the same way it all started. Together. Since you were older than me, you were always there as far back as I remember. You and I were connected as if we were twins. You were there to watch over and protect me. In the end, I was there to do the same for you. I never new a stronger person and never will. Complaining was not in your nature. Only positivity and cheer. Whether we were playing together as children, hunting deer and moose together as adults, or enjoying Yahtzee, crib, and dice together near the end, your enjoyment for life reflected in everything we did. All your pains are gone now sis. You can run and jump and play again and enjoy the company of Pinky. Carol, give Dad a big hug for me and be comforted in knowing your memory is alive. Love your baby brother, Calvin - Posted by: Calvin (Brother ) on: Mar 09, 2019